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How the cow ate the cabbage

In the Gardens of Myopia.

Dear Word Detective: Over the years I have used the phrase “I told him how the cow ate the cabbage!” which I picked up somewhere. Now an Aussie friend wants to know what it means. I know what I mean when I say it, but wonder what its origin is. — Jo Nicholas.

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That’s a good question, and one that has, fortunately, a definite answer. That’s not always the case when it comes to folk sayings, some of which turn out to be so obscure that the origin may never be known. I remember hunting for the origin of (or even a coherent explanation of) the 19th century phrase “to stick one’s spoon in the wall” (meaning “to die”) a few years ago. I never found it, and that phrase has been rattling around in the back of my mind ever since.

“To tell someone how the cow ate the cabbage” means to tell the person the unvarnished truth, even if the person would rather not hear it. It can also mean to state one’s opinion forcefully or to “tell someone off” (“The mechanic had been jerking me around for weeks, promising that every new repair would fix the problem, so I finally told him how the cow ate the cabbage and drove home”).

“How the cow ate the cabbage” is a folk saying of the southern US, most often heard in Texas and Arkansas, and probably dates back to at least the 1940s. It comes from the punchline to a joke that would, in that period, have been considered at least slightly “off-color.” Here goes:

A circus had arrived in a small town, and one morning one of the elephants managed to escape. The fugitive pachyderm made its way to the backyard garden of an elderly (and very near-sighted) woman, where it began hungrily uprooting her cabbages with its trunk and eating them. Alarmed by the apparition in her garden, the woman called the police, saying, “Sheriff, there’s a big cow in my garden pulling up my cabbages with its tail!” “What’s the cow doing with them?” he asked, to which the woman replied, “You wouldn’t believe me if I told you!”

Hey, I never said the joke was actually funny. In any case, the nicely alliterative “to tell someone how the cow ate the cabbage” quickly came to be a Southern catchphrase meaning “to tell someone a truth they don’t want to hear” (which, of course, is exactly what the woman in the joke refuses to do). In the “tell someone off” sense it also carries the rude implication of telling someone where they can stow the matter or object of contention.

Incidentally, in the 19th and early 20th century, the only place where residents of small towns in the US were likely to see a real live elephant was in just the kind of small traveling circus found in this joke, where the elephant was the big attraction. So prevalent was this small-town pachyderm-mania that by about 1835 “to see the elephant” had become a catchphrase meaning “to experience all that there is to see.” A darker sense arose a few years later, in which “to have seen the elephant” was used to mean “to be worldly, no longer innocent, to have learned a hard lesson.” By the time of the Civil War, “to see the elephant” had come to mean specifically “to experience combat for the first time” and thus to have learned the brutal truth about war.

57 comments to How the cow ate the cabbage

  • Gredly Fornicator

    Stick your spoon in the wall, to die. Where did this saying originate?

    It orginated in the Royal Navy and British Army at least by 1825. Then it ment one would have no need of a spoon at mess, that is they were either dead or such.

  • Interesting

    I’ve been misquoting ‘how the cow ate the cabbage’ for years. I’ve been saying, “I showed him where the cow ate the cabbage,” but the meaning is pretty much the same.

  • John Pearson

    I have used this phrase all my life in the sense of telling the unvarnished truth. Often times people look at me like I’ve dropped in from another planet and I’ve had to mumble my way through an explanation. It’s great to finally be able to explain it more or less intelligently (with an emphasis on the less?).

  • bob ferris

    i too have used that expresion for many years, not knowing the real meaning of it. thanks, the day isn’t a total loss.

  • boogie freeze

    A few years ago,I was in an arguement with my ex. After a couple years of hearing me use this expression,to my suprise she said,”you’re always making up little sayings that you pass off as real!” I started laughing cause i’ve heard it all my life here in Louisiana. i think it’s one of those cliches that alot of people just have never heard. I might add though that she wasn’t the “sharpest tool in the shed”…now that one i made up. Silly girl

  • 0uterj0in

    Go see the elephant also meant go conduct business with a prostitute.

    • Mark Myers

      “Go see the elephant also meant go conduct business with a prostitute.”

      Actually the phrase dates back to at least the Mexican-American War, where “he’s seen the elephant” meant a new soldier had finally experienced battle for the first time. The phrase originates from when traveling circuses used to travel around the country, much to the anticipation of young children in rural towns. They had heard about the circus from older people who remembered the last time the circus came, especially about the elephants, which would have been the biggest attraction. Once they had “seen the elephant,” they felt more worldy. Similarly, having been in battle, even if just once, was enough to separate a battle veteran from a new recruit.

  • Steve B.

    I wonder if there is any correlation between the phrase “to see the elephant” and the scene in Tolkein’s “The Two Towers” where Frodo & Sam see the “Oliphaunt,” a creature that had been mythical to them previously, like much of the world outside of their native Shire?

  • texas

    Oops! I’ve been assuming the origin of this saying had to do with the improbability of a cow eating a cabbage because cattle, unlike horses, have no upper front teeth and would not be able to grasp a large spherical object. What’s worse, I’ve been sharing my opinion with older generations of my straigth-laced family for decades. I wonder if any of them were thinking “Sure, thats it!” :)

    • joe

      You are totally mistaken in saying cows have no upper front teeth… in the world do you think they eat grass….with a law mower…… in texas every thing is bigger… i guess that goes for not know too……i guess ya family has been giving you the ‘mercy overlook’….

      • WA

        Joe, they really don’t have upper front teeth. Did you considering looking for some info before posting your knee-jerk comment?

      • Mesa, Arizona

        Not just cattle, sheep and goats, but all 192 living species of ruminants — antelopes, giraffes, pronghorn antelopes, deer, musk deer and tiny chevrotains (mouse deer) have no upper front teeth….

      • Mark Myers

        Joe, Texas is right, you are wrong, cattle do not have upper incisors, instead, they have a dental pad or browsing pad, a feature of ruminant dental anatomy that results from a lack of upper incisors and helps them gather large quantities of grass and other plant matter. This feature can be found in ruminants such as cattle and sheep. In cattle, the tongue is used to grasp food and pinch it off between the dental pad and the lower incisors. However, since they cannot bite grass off, they are inefficient at grazing more closely than 6 inches (15 cm) from the ground.

        • Anonymous

          Cows do eat short grass very well. The Buffalo grass common to most remaining grazing areas is normally less than 4″ (it can grow taller). The buffalo grazed millions of acres of this grass, which grows well in the hot, drier plains. I’m sure they appreciated the patches of taller bluestem, but that wasn’t the dominant one.

  • Stan

    I have often used a similar saying, “Show ’em how the boar eats the cabbage”, meaning “Let’s get after it and show them how it’s meant to be done.”

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  • Dexter

    My Maternal Grandmother from Missouri (born 1907)used the phrase “how the cow ate the cabbage” quite frequently, as did my Father’s Texas parents as well. The reason is not the joke, but rather the biology of the cow.
    If a cow eats cabbage, they start expanding and it’s not a pretty sight, and quite uncomfortable for the cow. Additionally, ranchers would have to place a large syringe into the cow’s stomach to relieve the pressure. Apparently flatulation is not easy for an animal with 4 stomachs (or one stomach with 4 sections).

    • WA

      I grew up with sheep. The gas buildup becomes a problem because it’s nowhere near the point in the system where it could be released that way. They can’t burp it up either, really. If it is severe, you have to puncture from the outside to save the animal, but it puts them at risk of abdominal infection. There really aren’t many happy endings for the situation, so you do the best you can to prevent it.

  • Sheila Johnson

    Wow! I have used this phrase for years. A few years ago I said it to a friend in an email. She was from the west coast. She didnt admit til later that she had to google the phrase out of sheer curiosity at my usage. LOL. I knew what it meant and assumed everyone did, but I googled it to see what she found. This is the link, today I’m sharing it with a new friend, who’d never heard it before either. Its ironic how many people have heard me say it that had no idea what it was supposed to mean and never asked or batted an eye. I’m going to print this today and post it in my office. Thanks for the great detective work!

  • Art Fruncillo

    Just saw this phrase today in relation to the recent (October 2012) presidential debates. Thanks for the great explanation, and by the way, I think the joke is funny!

  • Molly

    My mom and dad (born 1911 and 1914 in PA and lived there all their lives) and my aunts and uncles used this statement all the time. Having lived in Texas many years and never having heard anyone besides me use the phrase, I have a hard time believing that it migrated east – more likely the opposite.

  • Gal

    The saying is NOT merely “how the cow ate the cabbage.” The expanded TEXAS version(s) include, but are not limited to, semblances and/or versions of TEXAS DISCIPLINE. For example: the cause and affect of feeding a cow cabbage is very interesting and should be researched to be believed…, all in all – it is not a very smart thing to do. Your research will tell you why. This priceless adage will certainly be used on someone who needs discipline in taking responsibility for his/her own actions and the consequences of them, i.e., cause and affect or Karma baby, Karma.

    This priceless Texas knowledge goes on and on to include TEXAS JUSTICE as in, “I am taking his bahonkey behind the barn to show him HOW the COW EATS the cabbage.” Take my advice here and never follow anyone behind the barn to see how the cow eats the cabbage. NOT a good idea for more reasons than I have time to explain.

    I wish I had time to go on to explain how this adage also is applied to condolences and sympathies for varying reasons. OR how this adage applies to FAIR WARNINGS or roundabout being fair play.

    I think being Texan is the only real way anyone can truly understand what it means to have cows and cabbage. Anyone else trying to find an origin of such a saying is one leaf shy of a fig tree. SMILING BIG HERE.

  • Paula Marouk

    Wow, my family is from Texas and Oklahoma. They have always said, “How the cow eats corn!” ???

  • Alex Conner

    I am not sure if this had been dealt with, but in 19th century England. A change of residence led to a leather pouch being attached to the wall which held implements, chiefly the spoon. So to stick one’s spoon in the wall means to change residences. And this now means from living to…erm…not so much living.

  • Nell Cote

    So, I am about to have a come to Jesus meeting to tell employees how the cow eats the cabbage. How many points do I get?

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  • Darlene Ray

    I’m from the hills of southwestern Virginia and grew up hearing numerous sayings from my
    mother, my grandmother and my aunt. I’d never heard this saying until several years ago
    When I made a new friend who had tons of sayings. She was born in 1919. She, however
    said, how the RABBIT ate the cabbage.

    Have you ever heard of “dear John, send my saddle home”? I’ve never been able to find that

  • Lee

    I heard an outspoken friend from California’s Central Valley say this a few years ago, and I just loved it. What a colorful expression. I understood it to be used to tell someone off, put them in their place, or let them know they were spouting bullsh**t.I figured if a cow ate a cabbage she would leave a sizable cow pie on the spot. Enjoyed all the explanations posted here. And I also think the joke is funny! Thanks.

  • Lee

    (P.S to my post: The expression I heard was “I’ll show him WHERE the cow ate the cabbage”)

  • Lee

    PPS, I probably mis-remembered, and it WAS “how.”

  • Dale

    El Presidente g El Generalissimo de el Ejercito de Mexico…El Napolion del Oueste, Antonio Santa Anna was brought before General of the Army of the Provisional Revolutionary Republic of Texas, a defeated and captured fugitive. Santa Anna was full of hubris; a dictator who oppressed and killed many people in order to preserve his perskbal power. This meeting took place on 4-22-1836, the day after the bloody and decisive battle of San Jacinto near Houston, Texas. There, deapite Houston’s grievous leg wound, Santa Anna’s protests amid threats against his life by enraged Texican soldiers, afforded General Houston the distinct and honorable pleasure to tell this tinhorn fascist “how the cow ate the cabbage”. Look up the history; General Houston did a fine job of it, “Texas style”.

  • Fred

    I just heard Gov. Mike Huckabee use this term “tell them how the cow ate the cabbage” on Megan Kelly’s show. I have never heard anyone use it in conversation before even thought I grew up in Louisiana. I did not realize that it originated in the joke about the elephant eating cabbage which my fun loving aunt told me back in the 1940s.

  • Just heard Mike Huckabee say this in an interview. SO that’s what it means. Great website!

  • Kenneth Mclaws

    Thank you for posting this and for the research. I don’t mean to be critical but just check your spelling of alternative. Please don’t hold this against me, I just don’t know how else to say it. Again thank you. Kenneth McLaws

    • Lisa

      Dear Kenneth,
      Interesting that you check spelling and not grammar. In the sentence you wrote below it should have been “checked” not “check”.

      On August 29, 2014Kenneth McLaws wrote:
      I don’t mean to be critical but just check your spelling of alternative.

      I guess you are just “Practically Perfect in Every Way” like Mary Poppins and the rest of us.


  • Rusty Armor

    I am a bit late to this thread. Today, to say someone had met the elephant is to say that they have been in combat, and that their testimony can be trusted.

  • Phil

    I wonder, does “Meet the Elephant” have any relation to “The Elephant in the room”?

  • Dennis

    In Indiana in the ’50s, it was “show ’em how the boar ate the cabbage” and it did NOT mean tell someone the truth. Never. It meant something more like “show ’em how it’s done.” You might say it when a teammate goes to the plate to bat.

  • Melanie

    I am so relieved that I am not the only one who grew up with this saying. My mother was from Oklahoma and born in 1914. She moved to California in the 30’s, so I suspect this saying came about before the 40’s. A few years ago I had friends at work as me about it and I thought it was from my “era.” Someone my age said “nope.” So then I thought it must be from where I was born and raised. Asked my husband who was also from there, but “nope.” That’s when I figured out it was from my mother’s upbringing. Used it as “telling someone off.” I think I will start saying it more. Love the phrase and it reminds me of my awesome mother who passed away a few years ago. Fond memories.

  • Kevin

    Don’t know if you’ve seen this related to “sticking one’s spoon in the wall”.

  • John

    I grew up in Texas, the product of farm and ranching families. I heard that phrase often and usually in the context of looming trouble for the recipient. Now living in NY, I use the phrase to befuddle Brooklynites and Manhattan dwellers much to my delight. My grandmother used the phrase, my father used the phrase and my mother too. My kids now have it in their lexicon. The turn of a good phrase is better than the turn of a sharp knife.

  • Ralph

    I grew up in Arkansas, and heard this expression used often by the older generation in the 1950s and ’60s. Very funny back story about the elephant in the garden!

  • Ron

    I was born in 1936 and grew up in Kansas, Arkansas, and Missouri and heard variants of this, but our family used it as “I’ll tell you how the Bull ate the cabbage” meaning I’ll tell it like it is. Whether you like it or not, that’s the unvarnished truth.

  • Thom Childress

    Came from Robert Bakewell. The man who fed the industrial revolution.

  • linda

    I always heard it as “how the pig ate the cabbage”. I learned it very young from my grandpa who was from southern Missouri.

  • aeolius

    If you go back to what the old lady thought she saw was an animal using its tail to eat the cabbage. If she thought it was a cow tail, then just where do you think she had to imagine the cabbage was going? Which she could not allow herself to describe.

  • Monica McCarthy

    My granny was from Alabama and I’ve heard her say that since I was a child. (I’m 64 now and granny passed in 1986.) I have said that all of my adult life! People look at me like I’m nuts! I knew what it meant…but I never knew the story behind it until you fine folk we’re kind enough to let all of us know! Thank you!

  • Jan Blankenship

    I, too, grew up from a Texas heritage and often heard the phrase when growing up. However, punch line is “how” the cow ate the cabbage when asked by the sheriff and the nearsighted farmer said “If I told you where he is stuffing that cabbage, you’ll never believe me!” Assuming the trunk was a tail, you can imagine where he thought it was being “ stuffed.”

  • Lauren

    To say “that’s how the cow ate the cabbage” is to say how someone speaks frankly; there are no mincing of words.It is a description of one speaking clearly, as we would say now, transparent. But most people , in general, don’t like it. I love it

  • James M. Shelby

    A cow has to stomp a cabbage before they can eat it because their mouth will not open wide enough.

  • James M. Shelby

    Take a head of cabbage and feed it to a cow, and see what the cow does with it before it puts it in its mouth..

  • D

    I am so thrilled to have finally found someone who has not only heard this phrase, but actually knows the meaning and origin of it. My father used to say it, and I’ve never met anyone else who had even heard it. Thanks so much Word Detective!

  • Barb Arthur

    My parents are from the Adirondacks, a huge National Park in Upstate N.Y. My father’s family is from the UK, and my mother is from France. They both used the expressed in the early 1900s and when I was born, in 1944, and I use it today. I knew what it meant all this time, but it was nice to see it in print. It’s the perfect statement to say when you want someone to ‘back off or watch out!

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